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Dear Aunt Chelsea,
Pregnancy paranoia from a virgin! Oh dear! I was messing around with my boyfriend a
few weeks ago and there was genital to genital contact. There was no insertion or
ejaculation but I'm still nervous I'm at risk. This happened once during my period (tampon
in) and once the week after my period if that clarifies at all. I've asked around and the
chances of near-immaculate conception are very, very slim. Also, my right nipple is now
aching and produces (when really squeezed upon) a watery, sometimes white discharge.
Should I be concerned?
Poppy
Dear Poppy:
You’re right; the chances of you getting pregnant from “messing around” like this, without
penetration or ejaculation, are slim. Think back to health class on this one. You know
that the only time a woman can get pregnant is when she ovulates. Typically, we ovulate
during Week 3 of our monthly cycles– about two weeks after the first day of our periods.
Our fertility period lasts about three days a month. Now, sometimes ovaries have a
wacky sense of humor, and let go of eggs at odd times, even during our periods.
(Ovulation varies from woman to woman.) So you’re right to think that you can’t
necessarily tell by what time of the month it is whether or not you may be able to get
pregnant. Just to put your mind at ease, take an at-home pregnancy test.
If you need more information about birth control, or need some advice on dealing with an
unplanned pregnancy, you can find counseling services in your local phone book. You
can also called Planned Parenthood at 1-800-230-PLAN. Find them online at www.
plannedparenthood.org.
Keep in mind, too, that even if your male partner doesn’t have an orgasm and ejaculate,
sperm are present in his pre-ejaculatory fluid. Guys “leak” without even realizing it. So,
even when you’re “messing around” without having intercourse, even with a tampon in,
you’re at risk for sexually transmitted infections and/or pregnancy. It’s a damn good idea
to have a contraceptive handy. I like condoms for preventing those STIs, coupled with
the back-up form of birth control of your choice (the pill, a spermicidal lubricant, IUD,
diaphragm, etc.). Always protect yourself.
A clear or milky breast discharge when you squeeze your nipple isn’t generally something
you need to be concerned about. This is called “non-spontaneous discharge,” meaning
it only happens when your nipple is stimulated, and it happens to almost all women at
some point in our lives. Clear, cloudy, white, yellow, green and brown discharges when
the nipple is squeezed are typical. You should be concerned however, if the discharge
happens when the nipple is not stimulated, or if the fluid looks bloody. This could be a
reaction to some medications, but it can also be an early sign of some forms of cancer.
To read more about the topic, you can find Kathe Gallagher, MSW’s article here: http:
//women.webmd.com/PMS/Premenstrual-Syndrome-PMS-Symptoms. Either way, you'll
probably want to check in with your family doctor or gynecologist, just to be on the safe
side.
Pregnancy paranoia from a virgin! Oh dear! I was messing around with my boyfriend a
few weeks ago and there was genital to genital contact. There was no insertion or
ejaculation but I'm still nervous I'm at risk. This happened once during my period (tampon
in) and once the week after my period if that clarifies at all. I've asked around and the
chances of near-immaculate conception are very, very slim. Also, my right nipple is now
aching and produces (when really squeezed upon) a watery, sometimes white discharge.
Should I be concerned?
Poppy
Dear Poppy:
You’re right; the chances of you getting pregnant from “messing around” like this, without
penetration or ejaculation, are slim. Think back to health class on this one. You know
that the only time a woman can get pregnant is when she ovulates. Typically, we ovulate
during Week 3 of our monthly cycles– about two weeks after the first day of our periods.
Our fertility period lasts about three days a month. Now, sometimes ovaries have a
wacky sense of humor, and let go of eggs at odd times, even during our periods.
(Ovulation varies from woman to woman.) So you’re right to think that you can’t
necessarily tell by what time of the month it is whether or not you may be able to get
pregnant. Just to put your mind at ease, take an at-home pregnancy test.
If you need more information about birth control, or need some advice on dealing with an
unplanned pregnancy, you can find counseling services in your local phone book. You
can also called Planned Parenthood at 1-800-230-PLAN. Find them online at www.
plannedparenthood.org.
Keep in mind, too, that even if your male partner doesn’t have an orgasm and ejaculate,
sperm are present in his pre-ejaculatory fluid. Guys “leak” without even realizing it. So,
even when you’re “messing around” without having intercourse, even with a tampon in,
you’re at risk for sexually transmitted infections and/or pregnancy. It’s a damn good idea
to have a contraceptive handy. I like condoms for preventing those STIs, coupled with
the back-up form of birth control of your choice (the pill, a spermicidal lubricant, IUD,
diaphragm, etc.). Always protect yourself.
A clear or milky breast discharge when you squeeze your nipple isn’t generally something
you need to be concerned about. This is called “non-spontaneous discharge,” meaning
it only happens when your nipple is stimulated, and it happens to almost all women at
some point in our lives. Clear, cloudy, white, yellow, green and brown discharges when
the nipple is squeezed are typical. You should be concerned however, if the discharge
happens when the nipple is not stimulated, or if the fluid looks bloody. This could be a
reaction to some medications, but it can also be an early sign of some forms of cancer.
To read more about the topic, you can find Kathe Gallagher, MSW’s article here: http:
//women.webmd.com/PMS/Premenstrual-Syndrome-PMS-Symptoms. Either way, you'll
probably want to check in with your family doctor or gynecologist, just to be on the safe
side.
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